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I don’t even talk to the overt but the covert oh boy 😂

Thank you. You are fabulous, The receptionist shouted at me. Inside I wanted to slap her . That would have cost me my job .

I speak with my face expression.im happy I found someone who do the same .sometimes my face say it before I can . 😊

My bosses ambushed me in a performance review basically just accusing me of of having ADHD and "using it as an excuse" after a coworker disclosed that information. Bosses didn't even ask me if that information was accurate. We talked about zero details about my work, they just told me that "I'm frustrating all my co-workers and wasting their time". Then told me "change immediately or you're fired". How do you counter if people are accusing you of things based on their own discriminatory views?

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I love this video I’m a new supervisor and she thinks I’m supposed to do her job I’m learning how to say that’s not my job which means a big fat No.

3:26 "Feel the fear and do it anyway" Susan Jeffers.

It's nice to have a channel like yours, I'm always learning something valuable on a regular basis in terms of being a good communicator.

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I try and avoid at all costs. And I now I look her in the face and say 'I'll be glad to' when I am given tasks to do. She's a manager in training and she would call my name all the time, which frustrated me. I told the GM about her singling me out he had a talk with her, she quit calling out my name, saying Betty do this task, Betty do this task, Betty do this task over here. Even though she continued to do it when calling out orders for customers any staff member who was available could retrieve. I would correct her when I went to pick up an order, by simply saying the generic term 'oh, order on the side' anytime she called out my name from the work room. Now she says order on the side, Hurrah! Now she's trying to put her hands on everything I do (her thinking is it's not done right unless I do it), she will try and find a way to stick her 2 cents in or tell me how to do something when I'm helping a customer (I've been working for the company for two years). When she does this, I say I'll let you handle it and walk away. Thankfully she cannot always control tasking I need to do; she cannot micromanage me all the time. And so far, I only work with her once a week for two hours, her job is mainly in the work room, my job is up front assisting the public.

They only bully you if you feel like a threat. Key word is “feel” not real. It’s a made up position they made in their minds, they are really good at making stuff up out of nowhere. My best advice, ignore em and find another the job. Just do independent interviews without your company knowing. Saves time.

I just discovered Dan a fews days after being totally chewed up by one of the sickest narcissists parading (literally) as an advocate for peace and love. As I hungrily suck up all of Dan's content, I'm feeling relieved that that's the last time that let a phoney like that trample me down. Dan, you're a Godsend! ❤

This guy is just brilliant! He just spews out helpful tips faster than I can think! 👍

Or what about the guys who like to imply that there must be something wrong with an attractive older, single woman who hasn't found the right partner who she wants to soend her life with yet, and prefers to be alone until she finds him. It's that snide between the lines "So why don't you have a boyfriend? What's wrong with you?" I feel like saying, "Because I don't want a jerk like you." I'm sure you can offer me a better response, Dan?

You're brilliant Dan! And with just the right dose of edgey cockiness! That give us the licence to be cocky when it's called for 👍

Here's a tough one: What do we psoriasis sufferers say to all of the know-it-all assholes out there who say that psoriasis is caused by "nervousness" (even if they just met me two minutes ago) and that if I was just as serenely calm as them then my skin would have always been fine. What would you say Dan?

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You're brilliant Dan!! So glad I discovered your channel! I can't get enough! And you bring it home sooo entertaining that I can't forget the main points. 😅

Do you have a book?

I Love this video thanks I can tell my friends about it so think u i love it

I think I have an extreme sicko who started at the job. She keep throwing herself on me . I dont like It😮

I really need your help. I have a new lady that has joined our team at work. she is in her late 40s and I am in my early thirties. She came in with the energy of being very friendly but her friendliness became over the top. She always wants me to stop and talk to her. I have my headphones on and I'm so focused on my job. We are housekeepers at rental properties. She keeps on trying to be friends.she becomes very aggressive when I give her the I'm professional girl vibes. She started being very Petty through our group chats repeating everything I text and just being over the top. She has only been there four days and I can tell she wants trouble. I really believe that she is upset that I make our boss eyes twinkle and he speak highly of me. At this point I'm starting to get annoyed because every time she come back from being off she wants to talk about her personal life. I feel she is upset because she cannot crack the code in my head. I figured out she hate silence it does something to her. How can I handle this lady with Grace and professionalism and say back off.#pettypatalert

I need a pocket size of you to be with me to say alternative say this. My therapist has your books in his office. That's how good you are. I'm serious. Thanks!

I’m a mom/ grandmother with 7 grown children. I just started a business after being a housewife for 35 years. Professionally, the power dynamic I hate is when business women and one man asked me, “How many baby daddies do you have?” “Is it all the same fathers.” It is a lose lose. If I answer it, I will feel degraded. If I don’t answer it I look like I have something to hide. After 35 years of devoting my life to raising a family, I would think there would be a better question than basically, “How big of a whore are you?” I tried humor, “Well, I’m doing the UN thing where I have a baby from Africa, South America…etc”. Then I get the deadpan. “I see, you don’t want to answer the question.” I feel like I’m immediately framed in a terrible way. I don’t want to enter the power dynamic where I’m answerable to them. I also don’t want to say, “I keep my private life personal” as it makes me look like I have something to hide. Some people just seem to want to make my life their cheap entertainment. Help!

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What about how to deal with a narcissist who shouts but won't allow me to speak my position on an important subject that has to be concluded.

God I'm glad I discovered your channel!! 👍 And just in time! I will use this wording in an important letter that I want to send out this week!

I so glad that I found your channel!! ❤ I wish I had stumbled upon this video a week ago!

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Oh those chimes are great! I'll remember that: ding! dong! ding! "Charlie would you pass me the...."

I really love the vivid, entertaining way you depict these points. It really hits home the way you voice over the little nagging conversations. Exactly... I'm bringing this irritating person home with me? 🤢 I get it now. Your video helped me more than any book or course in my life. Thanks!

I have to break it you, even after your mom passes away the internalized version of her voice will still be following you around and telling you how to manage your life. Even decades after her death, I still often have to say, like, "No Mom, I know I really don't NEED this item, but I want it, I deserve to be happy with it an I WILL buy it because I choose to." Then POOF! Her voice has disappeared back into the ethers. We have to keep working on the internalized mom thing long after she's gone. Believe me.

Two ears. One mouth.😂

Could you do a video on playful conversations? Communication courses often focus on serious conversations, which are really important. But being playful is also what makes us human. Sadly, I forget how to do it.

Learning to talk plainly and truthfully has been when the best things I ever learned to do.

Another GEM! Thanks

My boss attempted to beat me twice already I don't see why I should go there still? To see him actually do it??Hell nah I don't want to go there anymore

What's confusing is when jobs SAY that want everyone to be a part, open, speak up, etc..then they really don't. Its speeches just for fluff sake. No one wants to be friends, just remember that no matter what they say!!!!

I love your advice and how you present it....idk if I can be so blunt though lol

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I read a book on bulies the best thing to do is everytime they knok you down you turn and smile at them!

I was bullied at work by my supervisor. When no one was around shed dump a new task on me and be snarky about it. When I came too early she said come later. I didnt have a key to enter the office until a year later. She chose who she didnt like and I found it was three prettiest women who had morre education than they had also everyone liked me there especially the higher boss whose a dr.

Cool. I don’t care what you allow.

The narcissist I deal with just stonewalls when I ask questions like you are suggesting. They don't give a crap about what you allow. Telling them what you don't allow only shows them what gets to you and they will absolutely do it more just to crawl under your skin. I've found it's better to show them boundaries through your actions and don't react to their tactics. Staying calm is also very important. The dialogue you suggest can work in public when it's done in front of other people but alone when nobody is looking, they don't give a f*ck.

The only problem with this is what if they give you a bad reference later when you want to leave?

Very well said I have used this love this 😊

Ok I just used this tactic on a toxic person and it did work and all but it really pissed this person off lol I wasn't pissed off at all lol they were spilling the beans like farts lol I was just repeating. The more I repeated the more it pissed em off

Love this 😊

This is a game changer. My favorite channel

LOL, one more thing. That method works much better for me than the hamburger method for stopping a narcissist. I feel comfortable, and at ease with saying that to somebody. So we can just use that lead in line instead of the hamburger. The lead in line suits me better. I can do that! 😊♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️❤